depression - pills vs talking therapy

Depression, the black dog, that gloomy cloud that envelops your being from morning to night. That feeling of dread. Doom. Waking in the night. Crying for seemingly no reason. Self harm. Spending money you don’t have. Not going out. Going out too much. Alcohol. Drugs. Poor body image. Feeling unloved, unlovable. Shall I go on? I’ve suffered on and off with depression since my teens. A looong time. I was on Prozac (now known as Fluoxetine) in my early twenties. It didn’t work for me. I felt numb, dulled-down, not myself. I’ve been on a fair few different types of anti-depressants over the years. TooRead More →

It’s 100 years since women over the age of thirty were given the right to vote, it took a further ten years to bring their voting rights equal to men. 100 years might seem like a long time ago to some but in the grand scheme of things it really isn’t . I am 40 (I do like to bang on about that) so 100 years doesn’t seem that long to me and we still have a long way to go which is why feminism  is still so relevant. First up this here is my best friend, a doorkeeper at the Houses of Parliament.  She wasRead More →

Yesterday F1 announced they were going to stop using grid girls, in his statement Sean Bratches, Managing Director Commercial Operations at Formula One, said  “While the practice of employing grid girls has been a staple of Formula 1 Grands Prix for decades, we feel this custom does not resonate with our brand values and clearly is at odds with modern day societal norms. We don’t believe the practice is appropriate or relevant to Formula 1 and its fans, old and new, across the world.” I was really excited, it was my mum that had spotted the news on Twitter and we discussed at length that this wasRead More →

So ladies, the Jade Goody effect has worn off and less eligible ladies are having their smear. This is frankly ridiculous. I won’t lecture you. You know what could happen. You could ultimately die from something that could be prevented. If your smear is due, book an appointment, go and see the nice nurse, whip your knickers off, lie back and think of England. But before you do let me regale you with a tale of one of my smears: Let me set the scene, this was pre-children, pre-losing my dignity – these days I’d whip my knickers off and let the Tesco delivery manRead More →

I’ve ummed and ahhed about writing this post. I have no real experience seeing as I’m heterosexual and certainly don’t want to be condescending. But, I do have an opinion and that’s what this is all about so here goes… I’m not really one to keep abreast of current affairs (something I intend to remedy) but whilst attempting to get a non sleeping toddler to sleep recently I was browsing Twitter. One Tweet in particular caught my eye. Allow me to enlighten you – On Monday (New Year’s Day) we (me, my mum and Big L – 6 and a half) went to our localRead More →

It’s been a while since I worked in an office but lately I’ve been thinking about the different personalities you meet in the workplace.  It doesn’t have to be an office, it could be anywhere even a building site, and it even translates to blogging.  We have Facebook groups where we congregate and swap stories and the same personalities crop up time and time again. So, without further ado I give you 35 personalities you meet in the workplace (in no particular order or gender for that matter) and how they spend their lunch break: The one that hangs around the photocopier all day doingRead More →

Hello it’s Monsieur Incidental. You will find below my humble contribution to this blog, in which I will expose the 5 greatest mysteries of the internet. Sounds good doesn’t it? Don’t expect enlightenment, just a quick trip around the daily nonsense you can find online. It will not become clearer as you read on, just so you know. You might on the other hand understand why I and the esteemed writer of the blog chose to spend our lives together though. 1) The clickbaity title: Our first one, and already a big part of everyday internet browsing. When I use the term clickbait, I meanRead More →

A little while ago I bought Little L some Bear Fruit Paws – you may be familiar with them they also make Fruit Yoyos which Big L was addicted to for about a month until he decided he no longer liked them.  Anyway, they are kind of guilt free gummy fruit snacks for toddlers so when Big L has a bag of Haribo I can placate Little L with a bag of Bear Paws.  If you buy them in a pack of 5 they come with free flashcards.  Well this is where my middle class A to Z started.  The flashcard in our pack wasRead More →

I am FORTY next week.  Apart from going on about it quite a lot I’m not really that bothered.  Age is just a number and if you’re only as old as the man you’re feeling then you can subtract 7 years – oh yes!  It has got me thinking a bit about “if I knew then what I know now” so here goes. 1)  You were never ugly As a teen I was convinced I was ugly.  I hated myself. Fuck me! I was so serious about how I looked.  Because I hated the way I looked I spent hours putting on makeup, I wouldn’tRead More →

I am a little perturbed, nay, I’m fuming.  MSN have deemed it necessary to give me a best before date with this list 40 things no woman over 40 should own.  Well….fuuuuuuck you MSN! Guess what I own a fair few of those things, I admit I still own a scrunchie, not for wearing out of the house but in bed to stop my hair getting on my nerves.  Oh yeah, I’m sexy and I know it! In just under 3 weeks I turn the ripe old age of 40.  I don’t look it (even if I do say so myself). I don’t act it.Read More →