Why we should talk more about IVF with egg donation
Some people become parents incidentally, some struggle for years trying to conceive naturally or with the help of IVF (egg donation) and finally succeed, some remain childless by choice or by circumstances. While parenting can be difficult and challenging, trying to battle infertility is not less exhausting. The consequences of infertility are very diverse and can range from societal exclusion, rejection, stress, to emotional suffering or marital problems.
While medicine and science can help solving the problem, the fertility journey is not a walk in the park. It is often a rollercoaster of emotions caused by a mixture of hormones, hope and anxiety when waiting for that longed for BFP. However, there is probably no woman on Earth who, after enduring this difficult road and finally giving birth to her miracle IVF baby, regretted her decision to try donor eggs and IVF. Egg donation may not seem an easy choice and it is usually not the first choice during the journey towards a baby. Behind almost every decision to try egg donation lies a medical history of a few failed IVF attempts or even miscarriages. There are also fears of not bonding with the donor-conceived child and the feeling of not being the child’s real mother.
So why should we talk more about egg donation? One, if not the main, reason for female infertility is low quality of woman’s eggs. As we know the quality of oocytes unfortunately deteriorates with age. Even fertility doctors recommend going straight for donor eggs when having IVF treatment after 40. Egg donation is a common fertility solution that helped thousands of infertile couples become parents. It cannot be stressed enough how having an open and healthy conversation on IVF can help break taboos and support those who need it.
If you are reading this because you are at the point of considering using donor eggs yourself, you should know that mothers to donor-conceived babies also develop maternal instinct just the way they would with their own-egg baby. You will start bonding with your child from the moment he/she starts growing inside you. Did you know that babies conceived using egg donation share the DNA of the donor, recipient mother and the father? Apparently, the fluid in the mother’s uterus (which, of course, contains her genetic material) is passed on to the foetus. You probably also know that children are like sponge: they absorb information very fast and tend to imitate their parents. Gestures, tone of voice, the way they tilt their head like mummy does. This is more meaningful than the same hair or eye colour.
If you are considering donor eggs, you should know that there is a plethora of free patient-friendly online forums and platforms where you can get emotional support, learn more about IVF from webinars, find out more about fresh and frozen donor eggs and check patients’ egg donation reviews. Use these resources to learn as much as you can before you make any decisions. Should I go with fresh eggs or frozen eggs cycle? Which clinic should I choose? How to choose the egg donor? The answers to these questions will definitely help you make an informed and smart decision.
If you have a family member or a friend who is battling infertility, use this information to educate yourself on this subject. It will definitely help you to understand and support them better.