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Finding out that your friend is bringing a baby into the world is incredibly exciting, especially when it means you get to help out with all the fun things associated with little ones – cuddles and days out – and none of the difficult stuff like nappies and nap times. However, while exciting, this is bound to be an incredibly stressful and even isolating time for your friend as they prepare to navigate the world of parenthood.
Therefore, whether you have had children of your own or are still waiting to start your family, there are plenty of ways in which you can help your friend who is expecting a baby – whether this means you offer emotional support or head out to the shops at 2 am to buy them ice cream.
With that in mind, here are some top tips that you can use to help your friend (and the baby) out!
Help them prepare for what is to come. If you’ve had children before, you’re in the perfect position to provide your friend with all of the guidance they need moving forward. This means that you can tell them everything you’d wish you’d known when you were expecting. If you’ve not had kids – do a little research. Browse baby forums and mummy blogs and share anything interesting that you can find.
Be a shoulder to cry on. Not only is pregnancy and preparing for a baby incredibly stressful, but it can also send our hormones into overdrive. Therefore, perhaps the easiest way to be there for your friend during this time is to simply be a shoulder to cry on. Make it clear they can always reach out to you – whether they need advice or simply want to complain. During this time, their body will also be changing dramatically, which could impact their confidence. You could help combat this issue by ensuring that you celebrate body positivity as much as possible. If they say anything negative about their appearance, be sure to remind them of the amazing work their body is doing right now.
Help them celebrate. If you’ve noticed that the thought of planning a baby shower is causing your friend a lot of stress or that she’s constantly questioning who should host the baby shower or where the event should be held – why not take on the hard work for her? Planning the baby shower on her behalf could serve as the perfect gift for new parents – as they have enough to deal with and organise without having to think about party games and snacks. Furthermore, planning a baby shower for your friend or loved one can be a lot of fun!
Be a chauffeur (or a delivery person). Preparing to welcome a baby into your home takes a lot of careful planning and visits to the shop to pick up whatever you forgot the first time. Therefore, you can help lessen their workload by offering to take on some of their duties on their behalf. This could mean that you drive them to the shop or pick something up for them. While this may not seem like a big deal, it can save them a great deal of time and effort, and they are sure to thank you for it.
Put together their Hospital bag. When your friend is ready to have the baby, you need to ensure they have a bag ready to take with them to the hospital. In addition to newborn essentials such as nappies, babygrows and bottles – you’ll also want to throw in a few things there for her too. For example, you should ensure that she has plenty of snacks on hand, plenty of comfort items and a spare change of clothes. If she wants to put the bag together herself, provide her with a list of items that she should take – including anything you yourself may have forgotten but would have found useful in the past.
Encourage her to treat herself. Another way in which you can help your friend during this time is by encouraging them to take good care of themselves. This goes beyond staying active and eating well – they also need to ensure they take every opportunity to treat themselves. After all, once the baby is born, they will be investing all their time and energy into the child – meaning that their self-care routine will likely be abandoned. There are plenty of ways that your friend could go about this – whether they ensure they enjoy a warm bath each night or indulge in their favourite treats without worrying if they’ve eaten too much. They may also want to go for a pregnancy massage.
Be there after the baby is born too. While many people are quick to offer their support when their friend is pregnant, many young mothers report feeling very alone once the baby is born. For example, while most people will send over gifts and well wishes for the new parents, they may not be invited to certain events or parties as people believe they will be too busy with the baby. You can help combat this issue by ensuring that you’re still there for your friend when the baby is born. Go and visit them when you have the time, and continue to invite them to events, even if you don’t think they can make it. When possible, you could even offer to babysit so that your friend can have a few hours to themselves – whether they use that time to go out for dinner or simply catch up on some much-needed sleep.
In short, there are various ways in which you can begin to support your friend during this exciting time – but the most important step is simply to be there for them – and make it clear that you will support them no matter what. Sometimes, just knowing that someone is readily available – be that over the phone or in person – can make a world of difference when you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed.Follow me on social media for more!
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