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Resilience is not something children are born with – it is developed over time through their experiences in life. Resilient children are able to trust in their own abilities and bounce back from adversity, whilst facing obstacles head-on. The trait is developed through encountering stressful and challenging situations and working through them, rather than retreating from them. As parents we can support our children with this. Here’s some tips from a senior school in London on how to raise a resilient child.
Try and resist the urge to jump in and help your child immediately if you see them struggling with something. Although you might want to shield them from any feelings of discomfort, it’s important for children to experience this so they can use problem-solving skills to work through it. In this way they learn that they are capable of overcoming challenges independently without relying too much on others. If you’re always there to help them before they get the chance to try things themselves, they might not feel confident in their own capabilities when faced with the next obstacle.
Encourage healthy risks
Encourage your child to step out of their comfort zone and take small risks regularly, i.e. those which challenge them but won’t result in them coming to any real harm. Taking healthy risks in a safe and secure environment will build your child’s confidence. Make sure to acknowledge when they have taken a risk and praise them to further boost their self-esteem. If your child never takes any healthy risks, they may get the message that they’re not capable of rising to challenges. You could encourage them to try a new activity or talk to someone new or put their hand up more in class – anything which pushes them a little and teaches them that they are capable.
Children receive messages about the world from the way parents behave, so make sure you’re demonstrating resilience in your everyday life. If your child sees you retreating from challenges and dwelling on setbacks, they may learn to view obstacles as a signal to retreat, rather than something to be tackled head-on and overcome. Point out when you have worked through challenges as a family, and make sure to remain as positive as you can when faced with problems or disappointment.
Raising a resilient child is an important aspect of being a parent, and we can do this by modelling resilience, promoting independence in our child, and encouraging them to take healthy risks within a secure environment.Follow me on social media for more!
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