I didn’t get to the ripe old age of 41 without making a few mistakes and learning a few lessons along the way.
That’s not to say you shouldn’t make your own mistakes, of course you should, but it doesn’t hurt to heed advice from someone older and wiser either (that’s me by the way)
So, sit back and relax while I tell you where I went wrong and what I would do differently.
- I would go to university. Although having said that I have no idea if I would do any better career wise. In all honesty I just feel like I missed out on the lifestyle. Freshers week anyone?
- I wouldn’t waste my time on people (men) that weren’t really interested in me. I have learnt that people either accept who I am or not. I cannot change that, you can’t force people to like you
- Pre drinking saves money but loses inhibitions. There is a fine line between saving money and being a drunk idiot – I know this to be true
- The kitchen is the place to be at a party – all the food is there, and the drink
- Travel more,even if it’s not a round the world trip. Just a week here or there before having children. Travel with children is lovely but the freedom of travelling alone is amazing
- Save money (even if it’s just a little) you never know what the future holds
- Don’t get into debt – if you can’t afford it don’t buy it (hahahahahahaha)
- If you manage to save enough BUY A HOUSE. One thing I would love is the security of owning my own home. Even if you have had debt in the past you can still get a mortgage after an IVA
- Trust your instincts. If you think something isn’t right then it probably isn’t. I’m talking all kinds of situations – work, or personally. If you didn’t get a good feeling in an interview, trust your gut. I got married – shouldn’t have. Lesson learned
- Learn to drive! I didn’t learn to drive until I was 30. You may have guessed that I was a bit of a *cough* party girl *cough* and lived somewhere easily accessible by public transport. Therefore driving wasn’t on my agenda, I’ll be honest I spent a lot of time under the influence so driving would not have been a good idea. However, since learning to drive I realise the freedom you get from driving. You can live anywhere, work anywhere, the road is your only limit. It increases your opportunities no end
There you have my first 10 Life Lessons – if you enjoyed this you might like 10 Things I Wish I’d Known Before I was Forty
*this is a collaborative piece