It’s world mental health day and I’m feeling very emotional. I organised a coffee morning, including a raffle, in aid of West Kent Mind. I’ve never done anything like this before. It’s been a bit overwhelming but, my god, it’s been worthwhile. I don’t know how much we raised, but that’s not really the point. The main thing was raising awareness which I think we’ve done. I’m so proud of myself this World Mental Health Day But not just myself all the people that helped, that donated prizes, cakes, time. Those that supported me personally by coming up and having a cuppa and a chat.Read More →

Have you ever wondered why it’s SO difficult to break a bad habit? Let’s imagine that you’ve got a bad habit such as smoking, and it’s gotten to a point where you’ve been clinically diagnosed and the doctors tell you that you need to do something about it in order to beat it. They’ll recommend you all sorts of products like patches, chewing gum and so on, but they rarely ever help and there’s one simple problem that prevents them from ever having a 100% success rate. It’s because you’ve built a reliance on it. Bad habits can also include something like eating too muchRead More →

I’m on the train on my way home from a birthday meal. I’m now a 41-year-old woman and a size 20/22. Please make yourself comfortable while I tell you the story of a 16-year-old girl who was a size 16 and convinced she was grotesque. I remember vividly wanting to look different. To be thinner. To look like the models in the magazines. I loved fashion and used to buy Clothes Show magazine and watch the TV show every Sunday. Do you remember it? Caryn Franklin, Selina Scott and Jeff Banks used to host it. It was very glamorous. It was the 90s and heroinRead More →

I am a big softie I would be quite happy if we could all just get along. To that end Anna from Me, Annie Bee and I set up our Facebook group Les Femmes Ensemble (which means ‘Women Together’ in French). We were both a bit fed up of negativity, of women bitching about women. The group was set up with the aim of bringing all women together. To support each other. With no agenda other than motivating women to be kind to one another. Les Femmes Ensemble is for ALL WOMEN, or those that identify as such. We know there are some fabulous groups outRead More →

No really? What has the NHS ever done for you? I mean, let’s start with your birth, I suspect your mother had access to a GP, maybe midwife. You were likely born in a hospital and even if you weren’t I would guess that a medical professional was at the birth. Then you were likely immunised You might have had illnesses treated by a GP, you probably needed a prescription which was collected from the chemist. If you were anything like me, or my children, you  might have fallen off your bike, or down the stairs or any number of other incidents that would haveRead More →

Did you know there are a wide range of benefits which come from encouraging your children to grow their own fruit and veg? It may sound unlikely, but children actually enjoy gardening. So, if you’re looking to start up a new hobby with the kids, or you want to simply get them out of the house and away from technology for a while, here you’ll discover the benefits of encouraging them to grow their own fruit and veg. It boosts their development Gardening has shown to be an excellent tool for child development. It teaches them responsibility as they have to care for the fruitRead More →

Body positivity seems to be the new buzz phrase lately. Some saying it’s promoting obesity others that it means we should feel comfortable in our own skin. At the grand old age of forty I am the most comfortable in my skin I’ve ever been and I likely look the worst! You see, for me confidence or body positivity has come with age, and settling into the body I live in. Or maybe it’s not confidence as much as acceptance, either way I’m OK with it. I don’t have the prettiest body by far. I am fat, wobbly and covered in scars from operations but,Read More →

I do love a chip but my figure does not. I am attempting to shift a bit of weight at the moment but I don’t do diets. I like to try to eat healthily and up my exercise. Unfortunately at the moment I struggle with exercise which means I can’t burn off the creme egg I might have scoffed at 9.30am so therefore I need to be more careful with what I’m putting in my mouth (if Cadbury’s go into receivership it may or may not be a direct result of my healthy eating). So without further ado I bring you the VonShef Digital AirRead More →

depression - pills vs talking therapy

Depression, the black dog, that gloomy cloud that envelops your being from morning to night. That feeling of dread. Doom. Waking in the night. Crying for seemingly no reason. Self harm. Spending money you don’t have. Not going out. Going out too much. Alcohol. Drugs. Poor body image. Feeling unloved, unlovable. Shall I go on? I’ve suffered on and off with depression since my teens. A looong time. I was on Prozac (now known as Fluoxetine) in my early twenties. It didn’t work for me. I felt numb, dulled-down, not myself. I’ve been on a fair few different types of anti-depressants over the years. TooRead More →