depression - pills vs talking therapy

Depression, the black dog, that gloomy cloud that envelops your being from morning to night. That feeling of dread. Doom. Waking in the night. Crying for seemingly no reason. Self harm. Spending money you don’t have. Not going out. Going out too much. Alcohol. Drugs. Poor body image. Feeling unloved, unlovable. Shall I go on? I’ve suffered on and off with depression since my teens. A looong time. I was on Prozac (now known as Fluoxetine) in my early twenties. It didn’t work for me. I felt numb, dulled-down, not myself. I’ve been on a fair few different types of anti-depressants over the years. TooRead More →

It’s 100 years since women over the age of thirty were given the right to vote, it took a further ten years to bring their voting rights equal to men. 100 years might seem like a long time ago to some but in the grand scheme of things it really isn’t . I am 40 (I do like to bang on about that) so 100 years doesn’t seem that long to me and we still have a long way to go which is why feminism  is still so relevant. First up this here is my best friend, a doorkeeper at the Houses of Parliament.  She wasRead More →

Yesterday F1 announced they were going to stop using grid girls, in his statement Sean Bratches, Managing Director Commercial Operations at Formula One, said  “While the practice of employing grid girls has been a staple of Formula 1 Grands Prix for decades, we feel this custom does not resonate with our brand values and clearly is at odds with modern day societal norms. We don’t believe the practice is appropriate or relevant to Formula 1 and its fans, old and new, across the world.” I was really excited, it was my mum that had spotted the news on Twitter and we discussed at length that this wasRead More →

I recently applied to review a dehumidifier, although it actually wasn’t a DEhumidifier, it was a humidifier and by the time I realised it had been dispatched so, I learnt a valuable lesson – I should read these things prior to getting over excited and applying for everything. In any case said humidifier arrived. “What the hell am I supposed to do with this?” I asked my mum, who if you haven’t learnt from my previous posts is the font of all knowledge see here for an example. “Ahhh, actually they are very good in the winter.” “What for?” I asked, “It’s damp in the winterRead More →

I’m sat here writing this with two young sons by my side. I can only hope to god that they don’t turn out to be anything like the men described by The Financial Times in their recent article about The Presidents Club. Please familiarise yourselves with it. It’s pretty tough reading. To summarise a men only club holds a yearly charity fundraiser where they hire “hostesses” to parade around basically looking pretty and being leered at – and the rest. Money talks. I’m not shocked, unfortunately.This goes on. A lot, I’ve seen it. I grew up, and still live, in Sevenoaks. A fairly wealthy part ofRead More →

So ladies, the Jade Goody effect has worn off and less eligible ladies are having their smear. This is frankly ridiculous. I won’t lecture you. You know what could happen. You could ultimately die from something that could be prevented. If your smear is due, book an appointment, go and see the nice nurse, whip your knickers off, lie back and think of England. But before you do let me regale you with a tale of one of my smears: Let me set the scene, this was pre-children, pre-losing my dignity – these days I’d whip my knickers off and let the Tesco delivery manRead More →

The BBC have reported here that a secondary school in Kent are searching bags each morning and confiscating unhealthy snacks. The school states “We had noticed a deterioration in concentrations, learning and behaviour particularly from students bringing into school large multi-packs of unhealthy food, snacks and drinks.” I guess that in itself is fair enough but they also state that they are “not returned” – are they consumed in the staff room? Who can say? If they were to give the items back at the end of the day I would feel better about it. I have mixed feelings about this, having two young sonsRead More →

I’ve ummed and ahhed about writing this post. I have no real experience seeing as I’m heterosexual and certainly don’t want to be condescending. But, I do have an opinion and that’s what this is all about so here goes… I’m not really one to keep abreast of current affairs (something I intend to remedy) but whilst attempting to get a non sleeping toddler to sleep recently I was browsing Twitter. One Tweet in particular caught my eye. Allow me to enlighten you – On Monday (New Year’s Day) we (me, my mum and Big L – 6 and a half) went to our localRead More →

As 2017 comes to a close I have two items left to review so basically that is what this post is. A hastily cobbled together review of a cocktail set and 2018 diary. In all honesty I would have done them before but you know, they arrived just before Christmas plus I’ve been half-cut from the all the cocktails so they’ve only got themselves to blame. The Vonshef Parisian Cocktail Set Monsieur Incidental was working as a waiter in a cocktail bar just before I met him (if you don’t get that reference shame on you) and he’s always hinted at wanting a cocktail setRead More →

Hi! My name’s Erica and I effing love Christmas. I do, I reeeaaaaally do. I’m one of those weird people that likes giving presents (but hates wrapping them). I just love it. It gives me a nice, warm, fuzzy feeling inside, I get excited at the prospect of people enjoying their gift. In fact I love Christmas so much that I set up a Facebook group for fellow Crimbo lovers with my friend Anna (HERE since you asked). Why do I love it so? Well, it’s hard to pin it down. I’m not a Christian, or religious in any sense really so it’s not aboutRead More →